Rules Of The Game Neil Strauss

The Stylelife Challenge – The Style Diaries

Rules Of The Game Neil Strauss - The Stylelife Challenge – The Style Diaries

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I couldn’t stop reading that book.

I was fascinated and embarrassed, but I just couldn’t stop reading that damned book.

I was as far away from Hollywood, high class nightclubs, magicians, and rockstars as you can get. Living in a small town in the Midwest, I was nothing similar to Rolling Stone writer Neil Strauss as you could get. At least, on the surface, I was nothing like him.

But deep down in my darkest secrets and fears, I was just like him.

I was petrified of women. I wanted to go out, have dates, have girlfriends, have sex, and do all the usual things men fantasize about. But I just couldn’t figure it out. Nothing I ever did seemed to work. And then a friend mentioned The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists to me. As I opened the cover, I immediately felt like the book was describing me. At times, it was frightening just how much this was my life. I devoured the book and re-read it numerous times. But as much as I learned from The Game, I wanted something that was a bit more concrete, something that was a bit more step-by-step.

So when Strauss released Rules of the Game, I rushed out and snatched up a copy on the day it was released. That book became my template, my standard operating procedure.

I launched this site to share the how-to details and steps in Rules of the Game with you. Obviously, you can read it yourself and I recommend it. But as a sort of companion, a kind of study guide if you will, this site will serve to share my own experiences changing my life with the strategies outlined in Rules of the Game

Neil Strauss

neil straussToday, Neil Strauss leads a life that many envy. He is successful, he has access to the biggest celebrities and musicians in the world, and he has eight bestselling books, movie deals, and television deals.

But it wasn’t always like this. There was a time when he was lonely and felt unfulfilled. You might feel this way yourself.

Neil Strauss built his life of success and adventure by understanding that you always need to understand the rules of the game you are playing. Whether you’re talking about a video game, a social interaction, a financial plan, or career advancement, there are rules and strategies that influence everything we do. But most people don’t take the time to learn and follow these rules.

Neil Strauss – The Writer

Neil Strauss originally attracted national attention with his insightful and illuminating musician and celebrity interviews in The New York Times and Rolling Stone. He didn’t wander into an interview and chat, blindly tossing off questions and simply hoping for a good response. He intensely studied human communication, he examined the rules of how we interact with each other, and he ruthlessly evaluated his own performance. As a result, he got the dirt no other writer got. He went shopping for diapers with Snoop Dogg, he spent the night in Jewel’s bed, he flew in Madonna’s helicopter.

His book publications came out of this same strategy of objectively studying the rules of interaction and positioning himself for successful outcomes. Many celebrity ghostwriters only get the briefest interaction with their subject. They’re left to rehash press releases and magazine articles. Strauss employed his skills at rapport and relationship building to get an unprecedented level of access. He lived in Dave Navarro’s house. He learned things that Jenna Jameson had never shared with anyone.

Neil Strauss the Pickup Artist

When Neil Strauss turned his attention improving his social life, he applied the same philosophy. This isn’t magic, this isn’t impossible, he thought. It can be learned. The rules can be identified, learned, and adapted just like a sport or any other skills. His transformation from being lonely and dateless into the world’s greatest pickup artist was documented in 2005’s international bestseller The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.

He followed up that smash hit with the 2007 publication of Rules of the Game. Originally issued as a limited edition two volume boxed set, this bestselling book featured a volume dedicated to “The Stylelife Challenge” and “The Style Diaries.” The challenge volume laid out, in prescriptive detail, a 30-day challenge plan for making immediate and tangible improvements in meeting women. The diary volume shared a number of explicit, sometimes hair-raising tales from the field.

An expanded version of Rules of the Game was re-released in 2009. It contained the proven 30-day challenge content, the field reports section, and included, for the first time, “The Routines Collection.” This material included word-for-word scripts on some of the most successful routines, openers, and ways to meet women. It also proves scientifically that men shouldn’t worry about a woman hearing an opener previously. You’re not going to be “caught.”

Neil Strauss’ biography is a list of achievement and successes, made possible by his understanding of the rules of the game. Whatever you’re “playing” there is a method, a learn-able process, that enables you to be the best.

Rules Of The Game by Neil Strauss

rules of the game neil strauss The Rules of the Game is the book that took what people learned from Neil Strauss in The Game, defined concepts into easy-to-understand rules, and made it more accessible. Rather than just reading along with his exploits, his trials and tribulations, readers could follow a defined game plan to transform from average frustrated chump to world-class charmer. What’s more, The Rules of the Game made learning how to meet women fun, using an interactive 30-day process known at the Stylelife Challenge.

Rules of the Game – Start with a Challenge

At the beginning of The Rules of the Game, readers are asked to evaluate themselves. This provided a benchmark from which future progress could be measured. Those who engage the StyleLife Challenge are asked questions about what they think of themselves and how they believe others see them as they enter into the world of The Rules of the Game. Readers must also confront the limiting beliefs that are currently sabotaging their social life.

Setting Your Goals

The Rules of the Game sets small, attainable goals for the reader. It also encourages readers to set goals for themselves, something that begins on the second day of the Stylelife Challenge. The second day is also where you have to start pushing your own boundaries by calling up strangers and asking for movie recommendations. This is the point where readers know that The Rules of the Game is not a book like other books. It’s a workbook designed to turn you into the super you. Neil Strauss founded the Stylelife Academy to help men continue becoming their best self.

Looking at Yourself in New Ways

When you start the Stylelife Challenge, you need to start viewing yourself in new ways. This is the only way that long-term transformation is going to happen. This means making changes, including changes that are going to leave you feeling a little uncomfortable at first. Conquering approach anxiety, introducing yourself to women, starting conversations with strangers, flipping the frame where you get women chasing after you… these are all things that require new ways of looking at yourself. Remember: All personal growth happens outside of your comfort zone. The Stylelife Challenge in The Rules of the Game will help you to get there.

Who You Are Versus Who You Want to Be

Maybe you were always the guy who got picked last in gym class. Maybe you were always the guy who struck out with women. Maybe you were the guy who always ended up in the friend zone.

“Were” is the key word here. The Rules of the Game uses The Stylelife Challenge to transform you from the man that you are into the man that you want to be. Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. You want to be a high value man, the type of guy that women want and men want to be. The good news is that using The Rules of the Game, any man can become this type of man with the right level of perseverance and hard work.  Stop living the life of the old you and let the Stylelife Challenge transform you into the man that you’ve always wanted to be.

Learn New Skills

A lot of what you need when it comes to meeting and attracting women are skills. It’s not anything innate in you. Money, good looks, fast cars and big houses can help, but they aren’t the thing that’s going to make all the difference. What you need and what The Rules of the Game teaches you through the Stylelife Challenge are the skills that you need to start creating attraction, getting women to chase after you rather than the other way around and become the overall high value man that is lurking inside you.

Taking it to the Next Level

Once you learn how to start talking to women, you need to learn how to start taking it to the next level. How do you move from a quick opening line to the stuff that’s going to get her to come home with you tonight? The Stylelife Challenge will start getting you there toward the end of the 30-day period. This is one big reason why The Rules of the Game is different from any other book that you’ve read: It’s a powerfully transformative textbook for the modern man.

Evaluating Yourself at the End

Once you’ve gotten through The Rules of the Game, you need to evaluate yourself again. How did the Stylelife Challenge change you? What do you still need to work on?

Perhaps one of the best things about The Rules of the Game is that it allows you to gauge your own progress, look at where you still need to grow and become your own coach to a certain extent after everything is said and done.

Pick up The Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss and start yourself on the path to being the type of high value man that’s always lurked inside you.

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